When my girls were born, it mesmerized me how clean we come into the world and how every single day shapes us. From the moment we are born conditioning starts to happen and it can either damage or flourish our creativity. As a creative person, and someone who appreciates art, I’ve focused a lot of my energy in awakening a very important aspect of creativity: curiosity.
The girls were naturally curious, and I quickly realized how adults around me, and even friends were kick to stop the girls’ curiosity in an effort to protect them from dangers. unknowingly they were stopping a very natural and fun process that we can only have when we are kids. These are the ways I foster creativity on my kids, my methods are non conventional for a millennial but I feel like although sometimes I’m strongly criticized, my instinct tells me I’m right:
- I allow a mess: I allow my kids to paint on the walls, I allow them to paint themselves, I allow them to paint their dolls, I allow them to play with food and to use my makeup. Funny thing is, they paint the wall once or twice, then they are not interested and go for the papers. I’m not saying I allow them to destroy everything, but I do let them freely explore with art.
- I encourage outdoor activities daily: I usually have to take a very active role when we are outside, which after work can be a little tiring, but my girls love it. We do butterfly hunts where we have to count how many butterflies we see, or we collect leaves, we spy on snails. It might seem silly, but by doing so they are learning to be mindful and by default, I am too!
- I encourage them to dress themselves and choose their clothes: Naomi usually chooses her own outfits. Sure sometimes they are horrible, but she expresses herself through fashion. She probably likes something that you are not seeing because of your own conditioning. flowery pants with striped glittery shoes and a rainbow of colors? bring them on.
- As babies I allowed a lot of freedom: My older relatives were against me with most of my parenting choices, but the hardest for them was to let my kids roam freely. I’m not going to lie, it was scary. For example I allowed my babies to open and close drawers, knowing that it will come a day they will scream in pain at a hurt finger. But results were magical, if they made a mistake, they quickly learned and never tried again. I was always silently watching, keeping them safe, but allowing them to explore freely.
- I involve my kids in my favorite activities: I love to paint, knit, work… and I have always involved my kids in everything I do. Sometimes they show interest sometimes they don’t. Showing them my work-space, what I do, makes them try to emulate, almost as if they were inspired by what I showed them. To this day, Naomi puts her clothes on the floor and creates little outfits, just like I do for my store’s instagram page. That’s really cute.
- I don’t force them into activities: Naomi was doing amazingly in ballet, the teacher kept telling me she was a natural. I personally had a childhood frustration, I loved ballet, but could never practice. However, Naomi was miserable before and after class, she hated how strict it was. I quickly realized it was not for her. Same with Frida, I love to walk barefoot on the grass, but when I did that with Frida she quickly jumped on me and started crying, our kids deserve to be heard when they say No.
- I’m not big on rules: Sure there are rules at home, but we are pretty relaxed and go with the flow. sometimes it gets hectic, but to a child it also feels liberating to not hear no all the time. There are very important rules, that we never break, but our days consist of measured happy freedom.
I hope you could relate to some of these! and if you have more tips comment below! Would love to hear more!
Wearing Miu Miu flats, French Allure Set (Sold out at pdt)